I Dream of Hobbit!

When I work up I was still in shock! What a horrible dream it was. I checked the date on my phone and then felt the relief. I still had a little more than two months on hand. What did I dream you ask? I know, I know it’s in the title, but I can still pretend that you guys don’t know the subject of my dream right?

Okay, I dreamt that I woke up and found out that The Hobbit – The Battle of The Five Armies had already been released…. A month ago! And here I was with all the world talking about how great the movie was and how touching was its ending and so on. And everybody was sporting some or the other The Hobbit merchandise and people everywhere were quoting dialogues from the movie! Amidst all of it I was the only person who hadn’t seen the movie. I felt so devastated. I went online to book a movie ticket, but the movie was already gone from the theaters. There was a worldwide Hobbit mania going on and I was the only one who had been living under a rock!

Waking up is the best thing that happened to me. Upon waking there were two things I realized. First that I am a major Tolkien fan (duh!), and another that like everyone else I too do not like it when left out of something. It feels bad when a group of people know something that you don’t. And it is nothing short of a blow to the confidence when all the people everywhere around you are in on a joke and you just stand there not knowing what happened. This inherent need of the human mind to know or have what everyone else does is what makes each and everyone of us to be a part of the ‘herd’.

We all claim to be wanting to be different, but we still want a group of people who are as different (or as similar) as we are. We all  preach that just because the rest are doing it doesn't mean we too must, but we still feel bad when we are the last person to know the latest Bollywood hit song. This need to be able to identify with the rest of the crowd makes us not only 'social animals' but also 'jealous animals'. Because when I don't have something that everyone else seems to have, I feel its unfair and my anger is mingled with jealousy. So often we confuse feeling of jealousy as a feeling of being treated with partiality. When we see a classmate receiving a higher paycheck we call life unfair, and when we see our neighbors driving a better car, we say its too much of a good thing and the neighbors will come to a bitter end.

Most of us assume and even fool ourselves as trying to be better at something, when all we are trying to do is be better than someone else. What we fail to realize in this endless game of bettering someone else is that its a never ending cycle. However fair you get, there will always be someone who's got skin lighter than you, however thin you get there will always be someone thinner than you. You get the best car in the world, next year they will come out with a newer and better model.

I'm not saying ambition is bad, but if it involves being better than everybody, all you'll get is disappointment. Because even if I see The Hobbit in first day first show, there will always be someone who's seen it before me!

Do let me know below in the comments, do you feel bad when you are left out? Are you jealous when all your friends have the latest smart phone and you don't? Oh and also let me whether you are counting down for the next Hobbit movie!

My Quotes XIII

Because no one else is quoting my quotes I thought I'd quote them myself! ;)

•  A day spent in action is better than a day spent in thoughts.
• Everything happens for a reason. And sometimes the reason is just to annoy you!
• If life doesn't suck, it regurgitates.
• Learning is easy, it's unlearning that makes life a challenge.
• With great power comes great electricity bills!
• Freedom and bondage are sometimes only a matter of perception.
• Follow your dreams, but don't fall off the edge.
• Do not pickle your regrets, they will just turn sour.

Tiger Killed A Boy

All this hullabaloo about the white tiger killing a boy who fell into the tiger's enclosure made me wonder about so many things.

1. Over hyped media reaction? - Now I know its not every day that a person enters inside a tiger's enclosure in a zoo and never comes out alive. But I do feel that the whole incident was over-sensationalized. As soon as the news was reported the whole of Social Media was flooded with pictures and videos and various stories of what actually happened.
2. The Blame Game - This one was the most amusing aftermath. Some were blaming the tiger, others the zoo authorities, some the boy who jumped in, some the by-standers. There were memes and slogans and jokes and articles and misinterpretations and misrepresentation to pinpoint one culprit for the death of the youth.
3. A Weird Source of Entertainment - It all started with headlines saying young 'boy' was 'mauled/killed' by a tiger. And then every single person with access to internet was hooked to any news regarding the incident. Watching the pictures and the videos of killing became a morbid source of entertainment. People don't care whether the 'boy' was 20 or 22 (reports are contrary) nor did they care whether he jumped in willingly or accidentally fell inside the enclosure. The YouTube video of this incident has gone viral and the comments people are writing makes me wonder whether there is a drop of humanity in some or not. A man died! How on earth can that be entertaining? After all these years of development and advancement, is the human mind still barbaric?

What do you think about this whole affair? And whom do you thing was responsible? Do let me know in the comments below!

The Spider and the Wall

Once upon a time there was spider. Lets call him Silly. Now one day, Silly the spider fell from his web, down on the floor. So Silly crawled towards the nearest wall and started climbing it.

Silly must have just gotten some two feet above when he missed a step(well spiders have 8 legs, one of them is bound to go wrong!) and fell back down again. But Silly was not in the least perturbed by his fall, he began his endeavor all over again. And this time Silly managed to go beyond 5 feet and he could see his web glistening. Eagerly he sped his way up, little aware of another drop waiting him. And drop he did. This drop left him disoriented but not disheartened. And again he began his arduous labor. Each time he fell and each time he tried again, till it was 99 times that the spider had failed his climb.

When Silly started his 100th attempt, he was extremely hopeful, since one of his ancestors had been successful the 100th time. And this time the spider climbed with determination, strength and most importantly HOPE! Before Silly knew it, he was already half way up the wall feeling exhilarated. But as fate would have it, he fell yet again. Crestfallen and beaten the spider just lay on the ground wondering why didn't his efforts succeed.

And while he lay there, his eyes fell on the adjoining wall. This wall too provided support to his web, since his web was built in a corner made by these two walls. Slowly the tired spider got up, and crept near the wall. A little reluctantly he began to climb it. He found something different in this wall. This wall was easier to climb, his legs were sticking well on its surface. Silly began his ascent more confidently and with new found rigor. And sometime later he was back in this web; happy, content and full of knowledge (knowledge at least about the walls.).

So many times in life we try to climb walls that were never meant for us.

Catching a Sun Rise

After a very long time, I woke up at the first light of the day without the assistance of my alarm or my mom waking me up! Okay, maybe not the first light, more like the second or the third light!!! Anyways, I woke up before the sunrise, and what a wonderful feeling it was.

Looking out the window, I could see the light creeping up upon a sleepy world, and that's when I decided to catch the sunrise. So I tip toed out to my balcony and peered outside, directing my gaze towards the East. And all I saw was Neem leaves! A Neem tree was blocking my view. Not being the one to be easily disheartened I ran up a flight of stairs to go to my terrace. And again,  I expectantly looked towards the East. And what do I see? A bunch of buildings!

I came back downstairs and enjoyed the fresh morning air (I live in one of those cities where we still get fresh morning air!) and wondered where the hell did my sunrise disappear. Its seems just a few years ago, all that I had to do to catch the sun rise was look towards the East from my terrace and I'd be greeted with a reddish yellow orb on the horizon.

Now the only sunrise I see is on my iPhone Weather app. So now if I wanna see a real sunrise I will probably have to pay some bucks, go to a specific place, find a sunrise spot and reach there on time! Whatever happened to simple old sunrises from the comfort of your balcony...

PS: I'm glad that towards the west of my house, all that we've got are long green fields and I still have mesmerizing sunsets at my disposal.

My Quotes XII

Some more quotes:

• The good in you should not be afraid of the bad in others.
• Past may affect the Future, but never let it define the Future.
• Let freedom not be a bondage.
• Closing your eyes towards the problems does not make them disappear.
• Folly and Wisdom are often defined by their results.
• Being practical is not always being selfish, being selfish is not always practical.
• Love, forgiveness and compassion can never be forced.

Helta Skelta

Once upon a time there were two sisters, Helta and Skelta. They had the most active minds of any time. There wasn't a single thought, word or action that could escape the endless loop of their minds. Helta made sure nothing ever came out from the state of constant confusion and Skelta did her best to keep everything under endless misdirection. They lived in a far off end in a dark damp cave.

Many brave men and women who had the misfortunes of crossing the sisters' cave had fallen under their spell and met dirty ends. In a village near by stayed an old lady, who was aware of what happened to all those who had tried to cross the cursed cave. She would try to stop them, her own villagers as well as some travelers from going by that route, but all of them regarded her as a crazy old lady and would not give heed to her words.

So the old lady decided to give the task to her grandson Steady Heady. Steady was a good boy and did his grandmother's bidding. He would stand at the start of the road leading towards the cave and try to warn and reason with each passerby. Some heard him, some did not. But atleast he had more success that grandma Farsight!

Even today the cage lies at the end of Sanity, and many a times the sisters Helta and Skelta get some really juicy victims.

The Great Indian Uncivilization

As a school going kid I had studied about the Indus Valley Civilization, how an advanced human community formed a life worth living. Coming back to current times there is barely anything civilized left in our country. Be it pushing and pulling to get into a bus or pepper spraying in the parliament, we Indians just don't like to behave. Now I am not saying every single Indian is ill-mannered but I do say that we tend to take our conduct lightly. And we have been smart enough to weave our this lack of social grace into a system.

People will not budge with a polite 'excuse me' but if you yell any variation of 'bhai aagha khaso ne' you'll see quick action. Greeting anyone 'good morning' or 'good evening' is limited purely to schools and certain work places, a 'thank you' to the man/woman behind the counter is met by a surprised face (they do not expect and they do not accept thank yous), making a queue is looked down upon and even if a queue is already there people hate lining up and soon its a crowd, and dont even get me started about banks and government places.

This does not mean I haven't met refined men and women, those are there too, but they are so very few; the large majority still is allergic to kindness, politeness and dicipline. And so I sat wondering what would bring about a change in the situation, can we as a nation become inherently polite and mild mannered? If only every child is educated and taught the fine art of living peacefully with others can this change be brought about. Yes, it is going to be slow and yes its going to be very painful, but if we want to turn India back into one of the great civilizations its got to be done

My Quotes XI

Few more...

• Ideals should ideally be left in the textbook.
• What goes up, comes down; only if it has lost the reason to go further up.
• Its not about being different, its about being better.
• Beware the Leap of Blind Faith.
• Many relations turn sour not because of lack of love, but because of lack of acceptance.
• Laughter is also the best vaccine!

If You Marry...

Dear Girls,

If you marry a rich man, be prepared to deal with commoditization.

If you marry a popular man, be prepared to deal with a tall ego.

If you marry a handsome man, be prepared to deal with vanity.

If you marry an over-achiever, be prepared to be outsmarted.

But if you marry a God fearing man, be prepared for a journey of a lifetime.

The Joy of Little Things

Joy can be found in the smallest of the things, like

• Dancing in the rain 
  
• Catching up with an old friend
  
• Hugging a child
  
• Singing your heart out
  
• Sharing an ice cream 
  
• Laughing together
  

It is in small things that happiness is found, seek no further than your heart.

Instant Gratification

We the people of today's world have evolved into a curious species. We are the only living creatures who seek instant gratification. The art of creating a pleasurable feeling on the spur of a moment, the habit of being more impulsive and the idea of putting one's self before everything else.

We no longer think before acting; we want it, we get it without sparing a thought towards how it would affect anyone else. All we care about is our feeling good, even if it is at the cost of others, even if it is at the cost of our integrity.

So now one doesn't think before getting into a relationship, for it looks gratifying at that time. One doesn't think before cheating(whether at workplace or in a relationship or during any form of transaction), because that is gratifying too. We eat what we want regardless of our health, for it gives us pleasure. We splurge on useless things unaware of the value of money, for it makes us flitting joy. All want short cuts, all want the spasmodic instances of enjoyment; hardwork has just become a bookish word, abused by many, implemented by none.

And slowly I watch, with regret I observe as slowly I society decay's through the momentary pleasures of the attractive to look at monster named Instant Gratification.

Divine Assistance

The forgery of fear taking control
Feelings clouding the heart
It takes more than yourself
To come out of the dark

Mistakes repeated with higher stakes
Masters of deceit rule the life
Alone you wont overcome
However long you strive

Fraction, friction, fabrication, facade
And a cocktail of misplaced expectations
Alone, all alone how long to drag

Sooner or later, give way to supplication

Divine assistance! Divine assistance!
Is what we need,
Divine assistance! Divine assistance!
The only way to succeed.

My Quotes X

Here's another list of quotes...

• Don't confuse being calm with being inactive.
• Rules are meant to shape, laws are meant to chisel.
• If you can't do it perfect, don't take it up.
• The less you bring your feelings along, the less the chances of getting hurt.
• Don't measure a person on the scales of your prejudices.
• Ideals differ from man to man.
• Don't wait for your death to give people a chance to say good things about you.
• Enjoy the fruit while its ripe.

Life Cycle...

The one who lives demands

The one who demands seeks

The one who seeks finds

The one who finds forges

The one who forges creates

The one who creates understands

The one who understands forgives

The one who forgives cares

The one who cares loves 

And the one who loves lives!

Antidisestablishmentarianism

 Antidisestablishmentarianism. A word that means to oppose disestablishment. And to disestablish something means to end its establishment. So basically its the opposition to change something that was already there but is now to be removed. Still confused?

Let me explain antidisestablishmentarianism in an Indian context. India is a nation full of contrary ideologies. Where every thought and idea is equally opposed followed by another group opposing the opposers, the chain goes on and on. When some law or idea or new culture is being established we oppose the establishment. Later when due to too much opposition the law/idea/culture is being disestablished we oppose the disestablishment as well, giving rise to... antidisestablishmentarianism!

Whether it is was the age old heinous practice of sati or the still prevalent dowry system, whether its alcohol consumption or dance bars, we oppose, oppose and oppose. A nation that loves to create ruckus without trying to achieve a common goal for the good of the masses. We enjoy antidisestablishmentarianism even if we don't know the word!

Why Do Women Cry?

"Mom, why do women cry?", asked David to his mother. David was about to get married in a weeks time and was trying to take a crash course from his mother on women, to better understand his wife-to-be.

"David, a woman cries for a lot of reasons, but basically its her way of expressing whenever she's overwhelmed with emotions. She cries for reasons happy, and she cries when too stressed. She cries when it hurts, physically or emotionally or sometimes both.

A woman cries over many things, but she weeps when only in pain. There are many things in this world that make a woman weep, make sure you are not one of them!"

Places and what they stand for...

When I hear someone say some city/state names, following is what I actually hear:

Mumbai - shopping, shopping and more shopping!!!

Bangalore - Hangout! Chill!

Shillong - NATURE! Food! Shopping! And lots of rain!

Kerala - Food, nature, lots of humidity and heat, kappa meen curry!

Ahmedabad - Friends, food, shopping, food, movies and did I mention food?

Gandhinagar - Super green chill out point!

Pune - Hangout

Baroda - chillout

Goa - Beaches!

Mt. Abu - Cold, temples, kinda boring.

Girnar - Steps, steps and more steps! Breathtaking view.

What about you? What are the things that pop up in your head when you hear the name of a certain place you've been to?

Kneel

Kneel

If standing up against someone/something doesn't work, kneel for them/it.

Disclaimer: The image has been sourced from Google image search. The quote is my own.

Gearing up for Monday Morning - Let's Create History!

It's Friday and many of us must have already planned out our weekend. But what about the dreaded Monday? Mondays are not to be dreaded. Read on...

It’s the start of a new week; a new day has begun, and while we are at it let us play our parts well. Put a smile on someone’s face, give the one in need a helping hand, hold on a little more to that desperate situation, trust the least trustworthy, fill the days with life, kill hostility with laughter, fill boredom with purpose and most important of all, let us create history.

You and I are here, not to wake up do our respective jobs, eat, drink and to back to sleep again. No. We are here for a higher purpose; we who are born in this age of the world, in this time of the history have a bigger purpose, a higher responsibility, to leave a better world for the next generation to inherit.

But what can one person do to create history? Yes I know that not all are recognized in the chapters of history and there are many unsung heroes, but our purpose of living is not to get our names in the history textbooks or to get a monument made for us, our purpose is to be our best in the days and time that is given to us to improve our world.

Be it the small act of helping the marginalized, or breaking the barriers of caste system, be it about being vocal about the gender prejudices or standing up against a corrupt system, every bit counts. You may not be featured in the news papers; you may not even succeed to eradicate what you stood against. You won’t see overnight results, but you will create a ripple, which will be noticed by few, a ripple which will grow and spread, slowly but steadily and you my dear friend will be the one who has set a stone rolling to change the course of history.

This Monday, wake up to create history!